DONT SPANK THAT CHILD AGAIN

Spanking is a type of corporal punishment, that is, punishments that are achieved by inflicting bodily pain on the offender, once child or teacher to students. There are different types of corporal punishments, including a judicial variant, but it tends to thrive most within the home and school settings. While many countries have laws against spanking a minor, in Africa. Children and adolescents are usually spanked if the adult in charge feels they have done something wrong. Many people are in support of this form of punishment. They believe it is a better way of imbibing discipline in children while some just feel it is the right thing to do because ‘they’ were brought up that way. I beg to differ. Various research studies show that spanking children usually have an adverse effect on the them. Beating, slapping, your child or throwing at your child tends to pull him/her away from you ; it makes them afraid of you and withdrawn from you, such that they would not want to share their problems with you for fear of being spanked. When children are frequently spanked, they grow into it; they become more stubborn and display more inappropriate attitudes. A common refrain among frequently spanked children is: “After all, I will cry and it will end”. When this happens, your aim of trying to make your child realise that his/her behaviour was out of line is defeated. Rather, what you have is a more unruly child. There are different measures that are more effctive than spanking. Always stay calm: when dealing with children always try to stay calm and collected. Try not to lose your cool to avoid making rash decisions. When you are calm, you realise that there are alternatives to tackling the issue. 2. Be gentle but firm : when admonishing a child, try to do this as gently as you can but make sure the child understands the consequences he/she would face if he repeats the act. 3. Avoid having an argument with your child : when you get into an argument with your child, they get defensive, and sometimes, they may sass you. This is counter-productive as you are likely to become angry, lose control (and spank them) or discipline them for sassing you- instead of addressing their initial fault. Use other forms of discipline to correct them when they error for younger children, 4. Use verbal reprimands : when reprimanding them, use your words. Try to make them see reasons why what they have done is wrong. If you always spank them, you only succeed in making them not to repeat the act (that is even rare), but they don’t know why they shouldn’t do it. Example when you spank a child for playing with fire, the child may learn not to play with fire but wouldn’t know that if he or she does that, that he or she would get burnt. Take time to explain the consequences of their actions. NOTE:- No child comes with an instruction manual about life , so they are bound to make mistakes; all we have to do is treat them with wisdom, understanding, love,