5 Golden Words

GOLDEN WORDS Issue 5, Volume 1 Topic: 6DS TO ACCOMPLISH YOUR GOALS Don't let your goals and resolutions fall by the wayside. Chances are that to achieve your dreams and live a life you love, those goals and resolutions are crucial. Goal setting and goal achievement are easier if you follow these six steps for effective and successful goal setting and resolution accomplishment. ¤ Deeply desire the goal: I read a book by Napoleon Hill, in one of his landmark books titled “Think and Grow Rich” he said, "the starting point of all achievement is desire. Keep this constantly in mind. Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat." In a nut shell, I would say that the very first step in setting and achieving your dreams or goals is to have the DESIRE! ¤ Draft a plan for the conduit you need to follow to accomplish the goal. Schedule a procedure to follow by identifying the critical and most difficult path. The critical or most difficult path defines the key accomplishments along the way, the most important steps that must happen for the goal to become a reality. Another author named Stephen Covey, he said, "All things are created twice. There's a mental or first creation, and a physical or second creation of all things. You have to make sure that the blueprint, the first creation, is really what you want, that you've thought everything through. Then you put it into bricks and mortar. Each day you go to the construction shed and pull out the blueprint to get marching orders for the day. You begin with the end in mind." I think He's right, but the question is how dedicated are you? ¤ Determine to achieve the goal: I read another book by Lee Iacocca, I can't remember the title, Lee iacocca said, "The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." If the goal is a thing, how will it feel together with your living? Some genius of goal setting or some good goal setter recommends that you keep a picture of the item where you can see them and be reminded of them daily. Step two above is what I do, I'll write out my goals on a sheet, paste it on the wall of my room, and every morning, I tell myself, I can, I will and I must make it, and today, I give God the glory. I want to tell you, If you can’t picture yourself achieving the goal, you won’t! So, it takes determination to achieve a goal! ¤ Dedicate yourself to achieving the goal I love Lee Iacocca, he is one of my mentor as a write, he said something, "The discipline of writing something down is the first step toward making it happen." I agree completely. Like I said in step 2, write down the plan, the action steps and the critical path. Somehow, writing down the goal, the plan and a timeline sets events in motion that may not have happened otherwise. Come, not just writing the plan, or the step, but how dedicated are you to achieve them? Deny yourself of all unnecessary fun, although, it's not easy, but it worth doing, deny yourself of much sleep. In my own life, it's now habitual and now addicted to it. I sleep maximum of one hour daily, much reading, studying, writing, and many activities that make's me happy, when I do this, it is as if I am making a deeper commitment to goal accomplishment. I can’t fool myself later. The written objective really was the goal and it has helped me a lot. Do yours! ¤ Devote times for checking your progress in your calendar system: Note, you have a draft of your goals, whatever it is: a day planner, a PDA, a PDA phone or a hand written list. If you’re not making progress or feel stymied, don't let your optimism keep you from accomplishing your goals. No matter how positively you are thinking, you need to assess your lack of progress. Adopt a pessimist’s viewpoint; something will and probably is, going to go wrong. Take a look at how you've gone, what and what have you accomplished, what is left, take a look at all of the factors that are keeping you from accomplishing your goal and develop a plan to overcome them. Add these plan steps to your calendar system as part of your goal achievement plan. I tell you, it will work out ¤ Develop your overall progress regularly. Make sure you are making progress. If you are not making progress, hire a coach, tap into the support of loved ones, analyze why the goal is not being met. Don’t allow the goal to just fade away. Figure out what you need to do to accomplish it. Check the prior five steps starting with an assessment of how deeply you actually want to achieve the goal. These six steps to goal setting and achieving techniques or system seem simple, but it is one of the most powerful technique or system you will ever find for achieving your goals. You, just give it a try! Best wishes and good luck.

TO ALL MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER AND LIFE COACHES

MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKERS AND LIFE COACHES 2 In 2009, I was invited to speak at a church in Surulere, Lagos. I had just N10 in my pocket, so I trekked from Ajegunle to the venue of the event. I was thinking I would be given an honorarium, but all my host thought I deserved was a bottled water and handshake. I trekked back home under our hot-as-desert-soil-sun. In 2010, one of the speakers Abstinence Icon invited for her first Impact Summit asked that we handle his travel logistics. My fellowship had promised to give me the fellowship bus, but on the morning of the event, the pastor and driver refused to pick their calls. Looking for a taxi was our only option. My brother, John Okwudiri Anene, got a taxi man that charged N10,000. Getting that N10,000 was a miracle. So after the event, when the driver insisted that we add an extra N2,000 to the agreed price because we spent more hours than we told him we would, we pleaded but he refused. There was no where I could get N2,000 - none of my team members could produce it. All our money put together was not even up to N800. So, after waiting for 30 minutes with no solution in sight, the speaker asked the taxi man to drive off. I don't think I've ever been that humiliated all my life. Nonetheless, I learnt a lesson that day: A dream without finance may become a nightmare. So I told myself the truth: I needed a job. I dusted my computer engineering tools and resumed my engineering job, I took my volunteering job at Employment Clinic seriously. I vowed not to experience that humiliation again. In 2011, I was invited to speak at Covenant University and was introduced as Apostle of Sexology. As I was about to leave, a guy approached me and introduced himself as Bishop of Sexuality. I smiled, shook his hand and in my humourous way, attempted to prostrate for him. He praised and told me how he has been following my work on Facebook. He also told me he has a passion similar to mine and a few things he had done. After talking for a while, he asked: "How do you make money?" "I don't make money," I began, "I live on people's generosity." He was obviously not satisfied with my answer, so I shared with him a few lessons I've learnt on the job and things that have helped me. I saw him share tips a few times on Facebook after that. About 7 months later, his name popped up on my timeline and I initiated a chat: "Bishop, it's been a while ooooo!" "Apostle, I have left this speaking thing. It is not working for me. I got a job in a bank." I was happy for him. He did the right thing by looking for a job that would at least, put food on his table. (I asked for his permission before sharing this) Dear young speaker and life coach, forget all those exciting speeches you hear in seminars. Majority of us were lied to by those we looked up to. They told us we could do it without showing us how. They made us feel they built their empires by honouring 365 speaking engagements in a year, whereas they have consulting jobs, coaching jobs, trainings and some other investments not related to speaking at all. In Warri, while discussing with my brother, Godstime Eluma, he was happily telling me how he wanted to meet with this this and that whenever he comes to Lagos. He told me how that person made millions of naira and how the other made thousands of dollars and how popular they are. "Hey bro! Stop that," I said to him. Social media is not real life. I know these people you are mentioning and you have been fed with lies. They turn you on, but like a man with low sperm count, they can't get you pregnant. I shared with him how one of the names he mentioned stood on the podium of one of the biggest churches in Lagos, brought a photographer to snap him as if he was speaking to an audience and flooded social media with the picture and captioned it with "Had a great time speaking at 'this that this'." I also told him about another who on her flyer writes N30,000, N50,000 for training yet pings people behind to pay just N2,000 if they can't afford the amount on her flyer. Yet, this is not known to my brother. He believed all the lies and was willing to drop all his life savings to be under their tutelage. Sure, there are genuine ones, but the lying ones have taken over social media. The truth is that they don't make the money they lie about. My mentor would always say to me, "Matthew, speaking is not all that I do. I consult, coach and have investment in other places." "Hope you are making money? Don't travel all over and be poor," he would conclude with. I know many of his other businesses, he didn't hide them from me. But many of the motivational speakers and coaches we run after lie to us as though speaking for 30 minutes is all that brought the millions. Friends, there's more to the millions than speaking. To be continued... © Matthew 'Femi-Adedoyin

So Touching

***So Touching** .....Read and Share! One night, President Obama and his wife Michelle decided to do something out of routine and go for a casual dinner at a restaurant that wasn’t too luxurious. When they were seated, the owner of the restaurant asked the President’s secret service if he could please speak to the First Lady in private. They obliged and Michelle had a conversation with the owner. Following this conversation, President Obama asked Michelle, “Why was he so interested in talking to you?" She mentioned that in her teenage years, he had been madly in love with her. President Obama then said, “So if you had married him, you would now be the owner of this lovely restaurant?" Michelle responded, “No, if I had married him, he would now be the President Of The US.” Believe it or not, sometimes it's a woman that makes a man who he is! So for the single men that are still searching for a wife, may God help us all to find that help mate that will turn us from "a nobody" into "a somebody, not someone that will turn us to a piece of rag". For that single lady that is reading this, may you be that blessing no man can do without.

Touching Story

This really inspired me Dr. Ahmed, a well known cancer specialist, was once on his way to an important conference in another city where he was going to receive an award in the field of medical research. He was excited about the award and so boarded a plane to the venue. However, two hours after the plane took off, it made an emergency landing at the nearest airport due to a technical problem. Afraid that he would not make it in time to the conference, he immediately went to the reception to make enquiries. He found out that he would have to wait ten hours for the next flight to his destination! He rented a car and drove himself to the conference city which was four hours away. Soon after he left, the weather changed and a heavy storm began. The downpour made it difficult for him to see so he missed a turn he was supposed to take. Driving in the heavy rain on a deserted road, feeling hungry and tired, he frantically began to look for any sign of civilization. He came across a small tattered house and knocked on the door. A beautiful lady opened the door. He explained his situation and wanted to use the lady's telephone but she had no telephone. She however asked him to come inside and wait till the weather improved. The doctor who was hungry and exhausted accepted the offer. The lady offered him something to eat and drink. She asked him to join her in prayers but he declined. According to him, he believed in hard work, not in prayers! Sitting at the table and sipping his tea, the doctor watched the woman pray many times beside a baby's crib. Feeling that the woman might be in need of help, the doctor asked her what exactly she needed from God and asked if God ever listened to her prayers. When he inquired of the child in the crib, the woman explained that her son was down with cancer. And they had been advised to see a doctor named Ahmed who could cure him but she did not have enough money to afford his fees. She said that God had not yet answered her prayers but said that God would create some way out one day. She added that she would not allow her fears to overcome her faith! Stunned and speechless, Dr.Ahmed began to weep! He was forced to say out loud, "GOD IS GREAT" and recollected to the woman, all the sequences of bad events: malfunction on the plane, a thunderstorm and how he lost his way. All of which had happened because God answers prayers, wanted to give him a chance to come out of his bondage of materialistic career pursuit and give some time to a poor, helpless woman who had nothing but rich prayers! Oh! What a God! God may not answer your prayers YOUR WAY but he will always answer HIS way. Behind the scenes, he will move men, the weather, events, circumstances etc in order to work out the best for you! Do not stop trusting! Do not stop hoping! God is busy planning your dancing this year! Hold on! Hold out! Look up daily! (this touched and still touches me. I hope it touches you too.)

THE SIMPLE WAY TO SHOW COURTESY

THE SIMPLE WAYS TO SHOW COURTESY. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * 1. Don't break up with someone over text messages. 2. In case you miss a call, drop a message as soon as possible if you're unable to call. 3. Pay back borrowed money as soon as possible no matter how little the amount is. Don't assume that they don't need it and never make them ask you for it. 4. Turn the volume down when you're watching a video, playing music or playing a game on your phone in a public place or better yet, use headphones. 5. Don't press your phone or use headphones when someone is having a conversation with you. Unplug the headsets from your ears even if nothing is playing and give them your undivided attention. 6. When using someone else's phone or computer, Don't go through their stuff without permission. 7. Always leave the last piece (of meat) for the person who bought it unless they insist they won't eat it. 8. Don't use speaker phone to have a two person conversation unless your hand are unable to hold the phone. 9. When someone else cooks for you, offer to help clean the kitchen 10. If you stay the night at someone's house, make the bed or fold the blankets when you leave. 11. Don't let your arguments escalate in public. Find someplace else to continue arguing where others won't feel uncomfortable or interested. 12. If you ask your friends for help with some house work, feed them as payment. 13. When someone buys you food or coffee, try to return the favour within a week (if you can) 14. When you borrow someone's car, fill up the tank as a way of saying 'thank you.' 15. Don't smoke when someone around is Feeling uncomfortable. (so wrong) 16. Make sure you don't forget to return that book you borrowed. 17. When someone gives you a gift, no matter how small it is or the way it was presented, even if it wasn't up to your Expectation, Just say 'Thank You'. 18. When you have someone older than you who's friendly and makes himself free with you, Speak to them with respect. 19. Don't Feel too big to be corrected or reject good advice because you feel it's your life... Life is a ring...The next blow can come anytime.. DON'T STOP LEARNING!

Time Differences

Kenya is two hours ahead of Nigeria, but it does not mean that Nigeria is slow, and it does not mean that Kenya is faster than Nigeria. Both countries are working based on their own "Time Zone." Some one is still single..Someone got married and 'waited' ten years before having a child, there is another who had had a baby within one year after marriage. Everyone is working in their "Time Zone " Someone graduated at the age of 22, yet waited 5 years before securing a job; and there is another who graduated at the age of 27 and secured employment just after national service. Everyone is working in their "Time Zone " Joyce Meyer started her own ministry at age 41 and still alive today at 71 years old. She is working in her "Time Zone " Someone became CEO at the age of 25 and died at the age of 50 while another became a CEO at the age of 50 and lived to 90 years. Everyone worked based on their 'Time Zone'.. Some people have everything that work fast for them. Work in your "Time Zone" and pray for God's direction. Brethren, God has designed us for a particular purpose that is different from the other person. God allows things to happen at His own time. Your Time Will Come. Colleagues, friends, associates, younger one(s) might "seem" to go ahead of you. Don't envy them, it's their 'Time Zone.'. Yours is coming soon. In this second quarter of 2016, be strong, stay focused stay in faith and stay true to yourself. All things shall work together for your good. You’re not late… you’re on time! God Bless you.

Can you answer this....

Dream Job

Goodafternoon , I'd like to ask u all a question on what's your Dream Job?

Fact about Life

Over time I've discovered there is no absolute finish line for everyone in the race of life. Our tracks are different and our duration are different. The only thing we have in common is the same empire. For instance, one person graduates @age 20 and struggles for another 5 years to get a job, another might graduate @ 25 and get a job immediately. One can marry a virgin and wait for the next decade to have the blessing of children, another lady probably after having series of abortions in her past, becomes a mother almost immediately after marriage. A fellow becomes MD @ 38 and dies @ 56, another becomes MD @ 55 and lives to 90. What a life? Life is full of twists, turns-ups and downs and many more surprises and disappointments. Life offers each and everyone of us different opportunities and once an opportunity is lost, it's gone forever except by the grace of God. It is up to each one of us to patiently prepare, wait, recognise and utilize every opportunity. We learn on the way. No one has it all or knows it all. There is a reason why we all don't fall @the same time, It's so that when one is down, weak and discouraged, the other who is strong can encourage and lift the other person. God never promises that the road would be easy, but he promised never to leave or forsake us. Although life is complicated, let us learn to go easy on ourselves and trust that God is working it all out for our good (even if it doesn't make sense now). Whatever trials, challenges or down times we face, all shall pass and in due course, we will be up and strong again to lift up those who may be down around us. NEVER LOOSE HOPE... We all have a story to tell someday...

There are various different reasons that might play the vital role in making the student lazy and inactive as far as the studies are concerned, due to this the students are unable to perform the given educational task in time and when the completes it they are still unable to do as per the desired given conditions of the instructor. That is one very common problem faced by the students not only in this present era but it is the problem since the initiative of education was being taken. There might be so many reasons which contribute in this regard but few of the reasons which are considered to be significant and the most crucial may include: (1) Incomplete Sleep: if the students are not having the proper sleep during the night he or she will always feel lazy and dizzy while their studies. Studies is a mental activity so it requires the freshness of the mind which is mainly achieved through proper sleep and once the sleep is not being taken properly than the laziness will prevail during the studies. (2) Taking the proper interest in the education and in the studies is very much essential; this is required so that the level of concentration and dedication of the student is being maintained with the studies. If the student is unable to carry the concentration level properly than he or she will surely face the problem of laziness and improper focus while studies. (3) Studying at night: This is another very common practices of the students nowadays. They prefer studying at nights as compared to the days, in the days they continue their regular hectic routine and when they are tired both mentally and physically than they starts to study at night when they should have gone to bed. This change in the schedule and planning is one of the major reasons for which the student’s faces problem while studies and become lazy and less energetic. (3) Studying for long continuous hours is also one major reason for which the students face the problem of laziness this is because when their body is at rest which means that it is in a static mode without any vigorous physical movement it makes the body feel tired and the student starts to feel being fatigued and lazy. This is also one significant reason for which this problem occurs in the students during their studies. (4) Depending on AOC, EXPO: Many students of today are so confident that they cannot fail since there is a way they can bring in Micro cheaps on the days of exam. Or probably, requesting Lecturers, Teachers to give them AOC, so that on their own, they prepare a ready made answers to an unseen question. Tell me how will such student be good? In this conversation of ours, I'm reminded of something Edward Fergus, a school-equity expert at New York University-Steinhardt, once told me in an Interview for a story. If students lack readiness for doing academic work, he said, "it's our job to to make sure we get them there." Does that apply here?, Yes!!!!! But our students in Nigeria her are so lazy and comfortable with their performances and they want the country to improve! Anyway, let me pen off.

Task your brain

TASK UR BRAIN Your $500 Fell out From Ur Pocket And Someone Picked It, The Person who picked it Happens To Owe You $100 So, The Person Paid You the $100 With the $500 And You Gave Him Back A Change Of $400. How Much Did U Lose in Total.???

Enjoy this piece I find it inspiring A Crow lived in the Forest and was absolutely satisfied in life. But one day he saw a Swan... This Swan is so white and I am so black.. Crow thought. This Swan must be the happiest bird in the world. He expressed his thoughts to the Swan. "Actually," the Swan replied, "I was feeling that I was the happiest bird around until I saw a Parrot, which has two colours. I now think the Parrot is the happiest bird in creation." The Crow then approached the Parrot The Parrot explained, "I lived a very happy life— until I saw a Peacock. I have only two colours, but the Peacock has multiple colours." The Crow then visited a Peacock in the zoo and saw that hundreds of people had gathered to see him. After the people had left, The Crow approached the Peacock.. Dear Peacock, You are so beautiful. Every day thousands of people come to see you. When people see me, they immediately shove me away. I think you are the happiest bird on the planet. The Peacock replied, I always thought that I was the most beautiful and happy bird on the planet. But because of my beauty, I am entrapped in this zoo. I have examined the zoo very carefully, and I have realized that the Crow is the only bird not kept in a cage. So for the past few days I have been thinking that if I were a Crow, I could happily roam everywhere. That's our problem too. We make unnecessary comparison with others and become sad. We don't value what God has given us. This all leads to the vicious cycle of unhappiness. Let's value the things God has given us. Learn the secret of being happy and discard the comparison which leads only to unhappiness. Learn to thank God for everything. Beauty is not a guarantee to marriage. Falling sick does not mean you are about to die. Getting rich is not the definition of prosperity. Building a nice house is not enjoying luxury. Sleeping on an expensive bed does not bring you sound sleep. Driving a new car is not a guarantee that you're going to arrive at your destination. Wearing the best clothes does not mean they look good on you. Having a family doctor does not guarantee permanent health. Being highly educated is not a sign of wisdom. Marrying from a rich home does not guarantee a happy marriage. Winning an argument does not mean that you are correct. Whatever is done without the merit of Heaven is fake or temporal. He who builds without God, is building for nothing; and he who watches over a city without God, watches in vain. Not everything is possible with men. Yet everything is possible with God.

Test your abilities Bible quiz... Provide the correct spelling of these words from the Bible 1. U T R H _____________ 2. T W A M H E T _____________ 3. B O P E R R S V _____________ 4. S U B N E M R _____________ 5. W R E S H B E _____________ 6. U S A J H O _____________ 7. M O R A S N _____________ 8. G E J D S U _____________ 9. S T R E E H _____________ 10. H M O L I P E N _____________ 11. L I N E D A _____________ 12. S E E S I N G _____________ 13. S H E E P I S A N ____________ 14. C L A I M H A _____________ 15. H A R M E E J I _____________ 16. A G H A I G _____________ 17. S N A G I L A T A ____________

Father and daughter

Ponder on this Once a girl bought an iPad, when her father saw it, He asked "What was the 1st thing you did when you bought it? "I put an anti-scratch sticker on d screen and bought a cover for the iPad" she replied. "Did someone force you to do so?" "No" "Don't you think it's an insult to the manufacturer?" "No dad! In fact they even recommend using a cover 4 the iPad" "Did you cover it because it was cheap & ugly?" "Actually, I covered it because I didn't want it to get damage and decrease in value." "When you put the cover on, didn't it reduce the iPad's beauty?" "I think it looks better and it is worth it for the protection it gives my iPad." The father looked lovingly at his daughter and said, "Yet if I had asked you to cover your body which is much more precious than the iPad, would you have readily agreed???" She was mute..... Indecent dressing and exposure of ur body reduces ur value nd respect. May God guide us all.

THE BRAINTEASER . A teacher walked into the classroom and says if only yesterday was tomorrow. Today would have been a Saturday. Now on which day did the teacher made the statement???